BOUNDARY: WHERE DO I DRAW THE LINE?
I got inspire to write this when I saw a quote from Dr APJ Abdul Kalam. He said,” love your job but don’t love your company, because you may not know when your company stops loving you”
Knowing where the boundary is, is important – be it in land, relationship, at work…the list goes on.
Here are six to start with
#1 THERE IS A THIN LINE BETWEEN TAKING RISK AND STUPIDITY
Taking risk is undertaking a venture that has the probability of loss or harm. While stupidity is behaviour that shows a lack of good sense or judgement.
What determine stupidity is judgement, which is based on one’s knowledge. And what alleviate risk is control that comes from knowledge.
For instance, going out during rainy season, I stand the risk of being drenched in rain. I could take this risk and reduce it by going out with an umbrella – that’s knowledge. But should should I shrug my shoulders and claim”nothing dey happen” that’s stupidity.
What you know and what you do with it defines the difference between taking risk and stupidity – not really the consequence. Stupidity may have gone out and back without being drenched by rain. That doesn’t make him less stupid. Also, he may have appeared stupid to all, however he acted by an information not known to the rest. As such, though his action appeared stupid, he was indeed taking risk. To reduce your odds of stupidity in a world full of risk, increase your knowledge at least daily. And be sure to use the knowledge.
Hence, there’s boundary line between taking risks and stupidity. And that is the information you have and what you do with it.
#2 ACTIVITY IS NOT PRODUCTIVITY – DON’T BE A FOOL.
That someone is busy doesn’t mean he is productive. That he reports to work first and leaves last does not make him hardworking.
Especially when you have people working under you, your subordinate may want to make a fool of you if you don’t understand this
Productivity has to do with how much and well one is completing instructions and meeting target.
You may be seriously running around and sweating profusely. If you or your business is not making progress, seeing visible change, achieving set goals, etc…STOP!!!
Activity is not productivity, draw the line.
#3 THERE’S BOUNDARY BETWEEN OWNING A BUSINESS AND BEING YOUR OWN BOSS!
You don’t need to own a business to be your own boss. Some people have business(es) and yet are not their boss because the business own them!
What does it really mean to be your own boss? Central in most definition is the theme:having control and being able to do what you want
Really, being your own boss is a matter of perspective and principles. It starts with Having your personal code of practice and sticking to it irrespective of who you’re working with/for.
This code may include for instance integrity, excellence, safety, punctuality etc. If you’re given a job, even if others come late (or you’re sure they’ll be late) – as a matter of personal code – you’ll be punctual. I doesn’t matter who is doing ‘wuru-wuru’ for integrity sake, you can’t. You do not sacrifice your health to get wealth, no matter what is at stake or you simply do not work on certain days…and so forth. These are personal codes which you enforce come what may: And it gives you control and you’re able to do what you want and not whether or not you have a business.
Irrespective of your profession or position, you’re the CEO of yourself. Your ‘busyness’ is your business. Your life, is your business. Your wellbeing, health, growth and development are all your business.
As the CEO of ‘YOU’ you should control what kind of offer you can accept, where/when you works and whatever else you do. Any person/organization that can’t stay with this simple term/condition shouldn’t bother. However, these principles must be well founded and applicable.
Most of us don’t have personal work ethics. And that’s one reason we (or those around us) keep grumbling in displeasure and do nothing decisive about it.
There’s boundary between owning a business and being your own boss
#4 ESPECIALLY IN PUBLIC, ADDRESS PEOPLE BY THEIR RELATIVE ROLE
Each of us is first a man/woman before anything else. And each person plays multiple roles: Father, brother, boss, chairman, colleague, friend etc. While I’m your brother, I’m likewise someone’s boss and another person’s friend. Also, most of these roles/relationship you may not be aware. While in our privacy, you may treat me anyhow – as our relationship permits. But when in public – where three or more – draw some boundary and relate with all modesty: relative to both my relationship with you as well as others who are around – for you know not what roles I’m playing at the moment.
If you’re familiar with Persian history (you can check this up in the Holy Bible, Esther chapter 1) Queen Vashti declined the summon of her ‘boo’, King Ahasuerus. While this may have been ignored were it to be just between husband and wife, but at this time, her husband was also acting as the King, an Emperor! Thus it was now a state matter! The story goes on, but it didn’t end well for her.
Thus, When in public, draw boundary to how you address people.
#5 THERE IS BOUNDARY LINE BETWEEN ‘MAKING YOUR POINT’ AND ‘COMMUNICATING’
You make your point by venting whatever is in your mind concerning an issue in the way you feel best. Of which you may not be understood. And if not understood, there may be no corresponding reaction to the point you raise. You may be making your point to the air, even if lots of people are there.
Communication is rather a two-way flow of idea. Of which you send a message and receive appropriate feedback confirming or not that your message is receive and understood. Here you speak in the manner the receiver(s) would best comprehend. When You communicate, it is targeted and the receiver(s) knows he’s being communicated.
So next time, determine clearly what you want: To make your point or to communicate.
#6 DRAW THE LINE BETWEEN YOUR CAREER AND YOUR JOB.
Your job is a point in the continuum of career. Your ultimate success is career success not job success. If your current job is not leading you towards a profitable future, you have to consider it closely. If your job and career is at stake, and you have to choose one, save your career – no matter how much is paid or other benefit from the job.
While your job is the current set of duty you perform and get paid, your career goes more from your past, present and future. It encompasses your duties, responsibilities, reputation, integrity, contact, relational currency, and many more within these periods.
So your job is one thing and your career another, don’t mix things up.